to allow prebundling for libraries using them

see https://discord.com/channels/457912077277855764/1024975960564580383

note that optimizeDeps.exclude automatically excludes subpaths too, implementation in vite looks like this:
i === exclude || i.startsWith(exclude+'/')

cc @bluwy @babichjacob

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